Single Christians – Get Real

As Christmas day approaches, I find myself even more frustrated with “Church” and how the “Church” view single Christians. There are a lot of worship ministries or “churches” that does not cater to single Christians. I was even told once that the reason why this particular ministry did not have a ministry for singles was because married couples are under a greater attack from the enemy than singles because all we have to do is focus on God. My mouth still drops when I think about that comment. When I asked why couples were such a greater target they said because the devil is mad that two believers have come together as one. If you agree with this, then you’re just as big an idiot as this person. The devil could care less if you’re single or married. When you’ve made the decision to give your heart, mind, body, and soul to Christ that’s what gets the enemy’s attention. If they were honest, not all married couples or singles are truly living for Christ. I know married Christians who are sleeping around, on drugs, abusive, and so on. As well as single Christians sleeping around, on drugs, addicted to porn, and so forth. But my frustration comes because ministries are not talking about this. And if they are, they’re watering down the Word or making light of the issues that we face, single or not. But I’m focusing on singles because I am a single Christian and I’m not getting the real talk from ministries (or Churches). Now I’m not saying that all singles ministries aren’t discussing real issues, however, there are ministries whose focus seem to be about getting a wife or a husband. To say that I don’t want a husband would be a lie but it’s not my focus. What I expect when I attend a singles meeting is the TRUTH – the WORD. I don’t want to hear what sounds good. I don’t need to be entertained by witty illustrations or jokes. Give me the Word. Don’t add nothing to it and don’t take nothing away. I expect real issues to be addressed. I expect a safe and open environment where attendees will feel comfortable to talk about what they’re dealing with and not be judged or condemned or gossiped about the next day. Let’s talk about how you’re addicted to sex and porn. Let’s talk about how you’re in an ungodly relationship that you can’t break free from. Let’s talk about how you are depressed and struggle just to get out of bed. Let’s talk about how you’re so emotionally damaged by the abuse you’ve suffered as a child and how it hinders you from having a functional relationship with anybody. Let’s talk about it. There are people suffering and single and aren’t getting what they really need. Single Ministries should really take a step back and re-prioritize. Is bowling and outings more important than ones relationship with God? Is finding a mate more important than ones relationship with God? The bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:34 that the unmarried should be concerned about the Lord’s affairs and be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. Why isn’t this the focus? Fellowship with other Christians is essential, don’t get me wrong. And as a single, it’s great to be able to hang out with other believers. But that can’t be it. And it can’t be just telling us to just pray or to just focus on God. Yes, pray! Yes, focus on God! But confess your sins one to another, too. Confess your sins one to another and pray that you may be healed. At least that’s what my bible tells me in James 5:16. Come on Christians, come on Singles, come on Church. Let’s get it together and get real. God’s house is a house of prayer. But we can’t even go in and freely confess to one another. Christ came to heal the sick. And the church is sick. We have single Christians who are sick. Let’s get real in 2013. Our soul, our spirit, our lives depend on it. I believing that we will trust God enough to confess.


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